Aa dating dating a biexual
Of course you can always tell an alcoholic but you can't tell them much, and I've yet to see one get out of a relationship because it was suggested to (especially if it was suggested Before they got into it in the first place) so I guess you'll take what ever you get out of this thread (that doesn't validate your decision lol) and use it next time. But luckily I got to a point where "I was willing to do whatever it takes to get sober".
I finally did my 90/90 and stayed out of relationships the first year, which continued on for 3.5 years.
My sponsor tells me often, it takes 5 years for us to get our heads out of our a**es and another 5 years to learn to be comfortable in our sobriety.
He may or may not be right, but he HASN'T lied to me yet, so why should I question him on this one?
They wereright over and over and I had to learn on the job so to speak to get me straight and to be able to be a useful and workingpart of a relationship rather than the"red button" you push to blow up the bridge when things seem not to meet my expectations.
Over the years, I have noticed that the people who stay sober go to a lot of meetings, get active in groups, work on themselves, adhere to the common advice and make sobriety their #1 priority. I was married for the 3rd time when I surrendered in "84 and God had sent me my "angel" to share my life with. first off, I know the AA recommendation about not dating during your first year of sobriety. :) My ex-boyfriend and I broke up a couple of months ago (completely amicable, he moved to Chicago to start grad school and the distance just became unsustainable, I live in San Francisco). He's great, seems very stable and self-aware, he doesn't drink (not in the program but just chooses not to).My ex has been great and supportive, he was also in the program and recently shared with me some of the things that went wrong in the disastrous relationship he got into at 3 months sober -- being overly vulnerable, got attached too quickly, and lost focus on himself and his recovery, as a way of helping me know what pitfalls to look out for.It took me well over a year for me to really start to see things with a clearer head.