Dating versus marriage
If you're a Christian, that's the biblical life you're called to.That's what I hope this column will be about — applying God's Word to dating, finding a spouse and getting married.
At Focus on the Family, we've offered a range of resources and expert advice bringing biblical principles to bear in this area.
Some of the messages we've presented have taken the position that Christians can apply their faith in such a way that they can still work within the system they've inherited.
Other messages have stressed that Christians need to be much more counter-cultural.
I wanted to respond to you, though, as quickly as possible.
So, instead of making you wait on my time schedule, I thought I should write to you and point you to some helpful information and resources regarding courtship.* * * If you're reading this, you're interested in dating. In our society, dating has become something of an obsession. It's just something you do if you're single and of age (and that age is quickly dropping) in America. In fact, depending on which statistics one believes, the divorce rate for professing Christians may actually be than for Americans as a whole.You've done it, you're doing it, you'd like to do it, or you need to teach somebody else how to do it. It is considered the natural precursor to marriage, and is generally considered something to be desired, whatever form it might take. If you were to Google the word "matchmaker," you would receive something in the neighborhood of 21,200,000 responses — with a few of these outfits claiming to be Christian, but most making no such claim. As evangelical Christians, we're called to be distinct in the ways we think and act about all issues that confront us and those around us. Granted, not all of these people are evangelicals, but we're not doing so well either.The system today's young men and women have inherited for finding and marrying a future spouse leaves a lot to be desired.