My husband is visiting dating sites
That being said, it's my turn to ask for some imput. We are in our mid 40's with grown children who do not live with us. The sad thing is that even when times are good he has exhibited some pretty bad behavior. I can not speak for your hubby, but I know that I am an ecstatically married relationship coach and do not surf one single "dating site" and yet at this moment right now I have 133 emails in my inbox and 303 in my spam filter, and about 1 in 3 of those emails is some sort of "Singles" ad or another. One of the things I had to do was to set up what was called a honeypot. All we had to do was click on a link on even nonsexual websites. And we'd use the email address to send and receive email--not even to any odd addresses at all. You will never get rid of it, all it does is increase.
Do you have to currently be going to sites to receive this kind of spam mail? It is my experience that if you are "out there" on the internet at all--like if you have a website, blog, facebook and twitter--that your name is sold to some of these sleezy places and they will solicit. But to accuse someone of dating sites just because of spam is wide of the mark IMO.
Just the other day he was talking about us renewing our vows.
That doesn't really answer your question, but I can say I do not visit any kind of porn, adult or dating and I have 130 or more emails from them in my box now..I type to you. When I found out years ago he was trolling these types of sites I hit the roof. I could not wrap my head around why he would be doing this. I must be a moron for thinking he could ever change! I will say I have a FB page and I am on the internet far more than he is and yet I don't get that type of email at all. One of those accounts was mainly used as a way to snoop on the estranged husband's dating site profiles. And that account was used to enroll in several of the dating sites as part of that. Of course, past actions may indicate something else, but that would then be a different story.
I've not said anything to him, because I don't want him to think that I'm spying on him or anything, because I wasn't.
The other thing is that he's been buying me things and just being a general sweetheart to be honest. It killed me to read the things he was saying to them.
The other e-mail account used for my daily life gets hardly any of that spam.
However, since your husband had an issue with it in the past, I'd do some snooping. I have to disagree with those convinced he has to be on dating sites to get the spam. However, in my career I worked at an anti-spam email company for awhile.
I thought about doing that but to be honest, there are so many sites and so many people on them, who has that kind of time? We have sex daily (and not just vanilla sex, either), I keep myself in great shape and am enthusiastic. But now that you say you get them and never go to those types of sites I don't know what to think! That e-mail account gets loads of dating site spam. One of those accounts was mainly used as a way to snoop on the estranged husband's dating site profiles. And that account was used to enroll in several of the dating sites as part of that. I have about 110 Favorites, and I belong to all the major things.. I belong to review websites like Yelp and a bunch of boards as well. (if their are other things amiss, then share them, if this is the only thing that doesn't feel right, I would ignore it) I have never ever been on a dating site, and I get stuff in my spam and junk for dating sites, penis enlargement, shoot I get stuff for rogaine, and I am a girl. My husband got upset at that spam before, when he was gone the last time, i had looked at his email..mail there was an email or two from a dating site, SEE HONEY!!!!