Single mom looking for dating
Their negativity was surprising and quite upsetting at times. One friend suggested I should just focus on being by myself, while a particularly charming family member questioned why being a mother wasn’t ‘enough for me’.
They even implied that I should wait until my son was 16 – only another 15 years on my own then!
Their comments made me feel that my desire for dating and sex meant I wasn’t measuring up as a mum in some way.
But I seriously doubt any single dads ever receive the same type of criticism.
Now when I spot the word ‘spontaneous’ in a man’s dating profile, I swipe left.
Some friends have implied that as I’m also approaching 40, I shouldn’t be worried about sex or physical attraction.
But I refuse to accept that companionship is all I have to look forward to, even at the ‘advanced’ age of 38.
WHEN I told Tom*, a guy I was dating, that I didn’t want to see him any more as we ‘wanted different things’, he probably thought I meant marriage and commitment.
You know, the things women are so unimaginatively accused of wanting more than men?In reality, the things I want are fantastic nights out followed by lots of sex – but sadly they didn’t seem to top his list of priorities.It might sound harsh to ditch someone because they’re happy simply cuddling on the sofa once a week, but as a single mum, my free time when I can actually leave the house is precious, and I certainly didn’t want to waste it watching telly with Tom.I do realise this all sounds pretty depressing, but then, by some miracle, when I’d been single for around a year I met Jack* – someone I really liked who seemed to really like me.